what do I say???
Sometimes things just are not fair. Sometimes things just suck. Nothing anyone’s done, just horrible.
It’s so tempting to tell someone in the middle of something big that it’ll all be ok in the end. ”and if it’s not ok then it’s not yet the end” , which hotel marigold lovers will recognise.
But sometimes when life feels really really unfair, it’s better perhaps just to say that. Say it’s really horrible and unfair and scary. That way you’re letting your friend / family member / colleague know you hear their pain and feel helpless too, but you’re there for them.